Episode 60: Writing in the Real Moments & Imposter Syndrome

Welcome back to Alchemy for Authors!

Happy 60th episode! In this episode I share a personal reflection on some of the events that took place over the last week, including grieving a loved one and niggling imposter syndrome.

I also discuss:

  • How I navigate the writing life when life throws a curve ball.
  • My hidden insecurities around being an Indie Author.
  • How imposter syndrome can hit anyone, anytime!
  • Why I don’t write every day and 90% of my ‘writing’ doesn’t involve writing.
  • The importance of looking at the world with ‘Writer’s Eyes’.
  • Why it’s okay to mine the dark and find stories in the ‘real’ moments.

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Episode 60: Writing in the Real Moments & Imposter Syndrome

Jo: Hello, my lovelies. Welcome back to another episode of Alchemy for Authors. This is episode 60.

I can’t believe that I’m at episode 60. When I first started this podcast, it was such a small seed of an idea that I really didn’t know if I had it in me to be talking to other people. I’m quite an introvert, I didn’t know if that was something I was going to be able to actually pull off. I wasn’t sure if I even had the bandwidth really in my life to be able to do something like this, let alone have the confidence to keep this passion project of mine, Alchemy for Authors is such a passion project, going for any length of time. And a big part of that was of course, imposter syndrome, which I know anybody listening to this is going to be very familiar with that feeling in some respect or another.

And so, not only am I celebrating episode 60 of Alchemy for Authors this week, but I’m also doing a bit of reflecting on imposter syndrome because it has reared its ugly head a few times over the last week. And so, this episode, Writing in the Real Moments & Imposter Syndrome, is a solo. So you will be stuck listening to my voice for the entirety of this episode. And not only that, normally when I record a solo I’m a little more organized and I have some notes or a script or something ready, so I know what I’m going to say. That is not the case in this episode, so I hope you can bear with me with my stream of consciousness ramblings that I’ll be sharing it with you.

So as is my hope with every episode, somebody out there listening to this will find something that resonates for them or helps them to feel a little less alone in maybe something that they’re going through. And so that’s really why I am recording this and because it has been, I don’t even really have the words, a very up, down, emotional, crazy, busy, insane week for me. And yeah, it’s brought up some things that I wanted to share with you all and maybe have you reflect on in your own life, how similar circumstances might have affected you as an author or how you’ve navigated some of the curve balls that life quite often throws your way, as it does all of us. So two topics then: I want to talk about writing in the real moments and imposter syndrome.

So what I mean by the real moments is those moments in life that are real, you know. We might have the best intentions when we wake up one day of doing this, that, the other thing, getting some writing done, getting some marketing done, whatever our goals and that, and then something happens that is out of our control, and throws all our best laid plans out the window. I know we’ve all been there. It can be something as simple as one of our pets is really sick and then we spend the day on the phone to the vet or in the vet clinic or something like that. Or it could be a child sick and they’ve gotta stay home from school when you’re expecting to have that time to write. It could be something bigger, health challenges, or bereavement, or job loss, relationship breakups. It is the nature of being human, that things happen.

So even though this episode is not scripted, per se, I did grab this quote. And this quote’s by C.S. Lewis and he says, “Stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s own or real life. The truth is, of course, the what one calls interruptions, are precisely one’s real life.”

Now, I had a lot of real-life moments this week. So I wanted to talk about how I am navigating that and, yeah, I welcome any thoughts or emails or anything after this show from yourselves commenting on how you’ve navigated the ups and downs of life. And there is a connection for me with imposter syndrome, because I think in the author sphere sometimes we are confronted with people who just seem to make this lifestyle, this business, look really easy. They’re making the big money and they’re got the big fan base and they’re winning the awards and they’re doing amazing. And so of course, you know, our ears prick up and we pay attention when they start giving advice. Things like write every day. Or they share their own experiences of being really sick or having somebody pass and they use that experience and they just kept writing and writing and writing, and that is amazing if you are one of those people and that works for you. But I just wanted to also share that not everybody works that way. I most certainly don’t.

I was talking with an author friend last weekend and we were discussing the fact that neither of us actually prescribed to the idea of writing every day. I don’t write every day. It is a really lovely idea. I would love to be that person that could do that. And I tried to force myself into that box more than once in my life, until I realized that’s actually not the way my brain works. Having a look at like Clifton Strengths and that, and you can learn a little bit more through the lovely Becca Syme, she talks a lot about Clifton Strengths, and how they can impact upon your author persona and your author success and author career. But one of my top strengths is actually Input, and I need a lot of thinking time before I actually put pen to paper. Not allowing myself that downtime and that thinking time, it means I’m not going to be able to write or, or not be going to be able to write anything of any significance or worth anyway. And it stresses me out.

So sometimes I think it is easy for us to compare ourselves to what other people do when situations arise in their lives that throw them out of their usual routine, and how they manage to keep on doing all the things. I think it’s easy to not only compare our own ability to handle life’s curve balls, but also, I think it’s easy for us to beat ourselves up a little bit if that’s not actually the way that we work and we function.

And the reason this came up for me and that I’m talking about this today is because earlier in the week, I did experience a death in the family. My stepfather passed away on Monday and my mother and I were there by his side in his final moments. And, even though it had been a long time coming, he had been in effect, dying of cancer for seven years, six years longer than his original life expectancy. The last couple of months have really been, for myself anyway, longer for my mother, but for myself the most turbulent, with him being hospitalized and bedridden, and over the last couple of weeks losing his mental faculties as well, which is really hard to watch. And I know there’ll be a lot of people listening to this who’ve probably been through similar or worse. And my heart goes out to you ’cause it’s a really horrible thing to watch somebody who is so very alive in all aspects of the word, deteriorate in such a horrible, horrible, nasty way. And I would like to say his final moments were peaceful and all that good stuff. And I would be lying to say that. My stepfather had a fear of dying and fought, literally fought right up into the last moments of his death. And so yeah, it was a little traumatic to watch.

And even though we’d been expecting it, my mother and myself had said our goodbyes several times previously because there was a lot of, false calls, false alerts of him getting ready to pass. And so for the last couple of months, I’ve been living a little bit with the anxiety of when am I gonna get the phone call from my mom that he’s passed? You know, looking at my phone, checking my phone, waking up in the middle of the night in case I’ve missed a call, all the time. It was one of those things that was sitting at the back of my mind all the time. So every time I made any plans with visiting people, or interviewing people for this podcast, for example, or sitting down to write, or anything, I always had in the back of my mind, oh, but what if I’ve got to cancel it at the last moment? What then? So there’s been a little bit of that anxiety in the back of my mind this whole time. And then when I finally got the call that it really looked like he was getting ready to pass on Monday morning, I literally left in the middle of my day job. I’m a teacher, so I had to walk out of the classroom, get somebody to look after my students and, and just leave. And I was actually the first one at the hospital. I bet my mother there. And was there for my stepfather’s final moments, joined by my mother just a little before he actually passed.

And it was an unusual, horrible experience. It was all the usual emotions that you would think, you know, connected to having, you know, a loved one pass and everything like that. But I also found for myself that in the moment I had real heightened awareness of everything going on around me, every sound, every smell, every speck of dust, you know, everything is kind of very, very much etched in my mind. And I think I actually attribute part of that to being an author and being a writer, in that even in those moments, I was seeing through what I call writer’s eyes. Writer’s eyes to me is the way I think us as writers or creatives, we look at the world, we see things a little bit deeper, we see the detail in things that maybe others don’t see, and sometimes I think we can see a little bit of the beauty in the darkness. I definitely was somehow able to notice myself picking up on things that I know even my mom in later discussions didn’t pick up on. And they were things like after he had passed, we left for a little while while we waited for the doctor to come and sign off his death certificate and everything. And when we came back, the lovely nurses and the hospice and everything had laid a blanket over him and picked some flowers and laid them on his chest. And it was, as we were collecting up his belongings, it was the things like the ant that had crawled its way out of the flowers and was crawling across the blanket on his chest. Yeah, so it was the little things like that that have etched themselves into my mind, and just the way that life keeps on even when someone passes. Yeah. I’m probably not explaining that very well, but there was almost a beauty in a really horrible moment that somehow found its way into my psyche that I know will find its way into a story one day, if that makes any sense.

And even as we were leaving the hospice and everything, and my mom, who grew very, very close to a lot of the nurses and that who worked there over the last couple of months, she was getting hugs and saying her goodbyes, and for me, my attention was stuck on the little whiteboard in the nurses’ office that had a list of people in the hospice and that, whose pieces of clothing had gone missing. And so what stuck in my mind was the name of one patient who was missing two bras, and my mind was already ticking over, well, what story is behind that? And I know for some people listening to this, this might sound really dark, that while we were going through such a moment that my brain could be thinking on the stories and that. But I think in reflection, that’s really what our lives are, is just a accumulation of stories. That’s what we are, that’s what our legacy is. It’s the stories we we tell ourselves, and the stories that we tell others, and the stories that other people believe about ourselves. And so my mind was already finding the stories.

And so, as you can imagine, this week has been a lot of organizing things with my mom, staying over at her place, and I’ve taken a bit of time off work and everything just to help her out. And my normal routine in all areas of my life has gone out the window. Have I been writing? No, I have not written anything. Even though I have a book deadline looming, as always. And I have an upcoming book signing event that I wanted to get things organized for, and taking any time off my day job certainly tends to cost me a little bit in the long run because I’m very aware that there are emails stockpiling up and things I need to do, and deadlines I’m falling behind with for that as well. And so how do we navigate our writing lives when life happens, right? Because life happens, things happen that are out of our control all the time. For myself, I’ve had to be really willing to let go. Let go of all those things that I’ve always felt that pressure and anxiety to keep on top of. I stepped away from social media this week, which is a little bit tricky for me because I’ve always felt this pressure to be posting every day to make sure that, you know, I’m still getting those interactions, that I’m still keeping in the forefront of people’s minds so I can connect with other authors and readers and sell my books and all the rest of it. And I put a post pretty much just saying that I was taking a bit of a hiatus. And so, yeah, I’ve barely been on social media at all this week. And every now and then I catch myself thinking, oh, this is gonna cost you and it’s gonna take a while to, you know, kinda get that algorithm working in your favour again. But also, it’s not that important in the bigger scheme of things.

This week has also made me reflect on how much is actually important in the bigger scheme of things. Because so many times we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be achieving or reaching this goal, or meeting this deadline, or doing this and that. And we think that if we don’t, it’s gonna be like the end of the world, or we beat ourselves up if we miss something like that. Or we tell people that we couldn’t possibly stop doing whatever it is that we are doing. Like, it is that important. And that’s not the case. More often than not we can actually let go and release that pressure that we put on ourselves of having to do all the things, because all the things do not need to be done. And when something does happen, something big that, or even something small that just topples your day a little bit, I think you’ve got to be of the mindset that it is okay to let go. It is okay to step back, to be human, to not have to be ‘on’ all the time. You don’t have to be that persona you’ve built up in your mind all the time. You don’t have to be that happy person all the time. That prolific author all the time. That person that never misses deadlines all the time. It is okay to be real. And I think it is our realness and our vulnerability in those moments when shit hits the fan, that actually helps us connect with other people better.

At least I’m hoping that’s the case, but I think that’s the case. I know for myself, the people that I’m drawn to are those people who are real. Those people that don’t shy away from life. The good, the bad, the ugly, right? And, yeah, and I think it’s important that we give ourselves permission to just be in the moment when these moments happen and to let everything else go. And regardless of what anybody else is doing, or any advice that anybody else is preaching about, yes, but when I was sick or when so and so passed, I was able to keep writing every day. That is great for them, but it doesn’t have to be you. We can all create writing careers that we love or writing lives that we love, in a way that actually works best for us as individuals. We are all different. We all work differently.

And I think it is also something that we need to let go of any guilt around if we do mine those moments, those ugly moments for story ideas. Writing for me is something that even when I’m not physically writing words on paper, I still feel that I am doing it every day in pretty much every aspect of my life. 90% of writing for me is really just done in my mind. It’s the thinking, it’s the reflecting, the connecting different ideas together. It’s the seeing the world with writer’s eyes, where you go a little bit deeper and you see what’s different, what stands out, what doesn’t make sense, or what other people’s eyes might gloss over. If we can see those things or seek them out, then we are filling that creative well, and we just don’t know how they might play a part in stories or poetry or any of our creations later on. That to me, is still writing. And so I think that’s also a reminder to us that writing is more than just literally typing something on a blank screen or getting words on a piece of paper. It is paying attention to how we feel in a moment, to the smells, the sights, those moments of discontent or discord, and mining those moments, ’cause I think that’s also where the stories lay and what will connect us deeper with our readers as well.

And even though there was a moment of guilt that I felt for noticing those things, when shouldn’t I just be so engulfed in grief that I wasn’t able to pay attention to anything like that? And that’s just not the way my brain works, and so for me, I needed to let go of a little bit of guilt that my brain was still seeing the story behind the moment as well.

And so how does this relate to imposter syndrome? Well, a lot of ways this week on top of, you know, having my stepfather pass and going through all the very practical aspects of organizing all the things around that, and having lots of visitors at mom’s place and everything. There were quite a few moments this week too where imposter syndrome for my author persona really reared its head as well.

And it actually started a few days before my stepfather passed. And I don’t wanna say actually started because imposter syndrome, like I said, is something that has followed me around in all aspects of my life, my entire life. But I really started noticing that, ooh, it’s still an issue for me.

A couple of days before my stepfather’s passing, I was lucky enough to be doing a local workshop here in Hamilton in New Zealand. August is Hamilton Book Month, and so for all of August we’ve got some amazing events that are either free or very, very low cost with local authors, book signings, talks, all sorts of just amazing stuff, workshops and that. And I went along to a workshop with the very lovely Lee Murray, who is a very well respected, multiple Bram Stoker award-winning author here in New Zealand. And she hosted a workshop called Writing in the Dark, which was a couple of hours long, I think, three hours maybe, all about adding suspense and horror and all that into your writing. And as a gothic suspense author, like myself, you know, of course I was drawn to this and yeah, I was really excited to be able to go along.

Also, because I think I might have mentioned this in the last episode, I have not really interacted very much locally as an author. I’m quite isolated in a lot of ways from my locality in that I don’t belong to writers’ groups, I have my books in some of the local libraries here. I looked right at the very beginning of my author career at getting some books into the local bookshops here, and then it just fell into the too hard basket, and I didn’t bother. And to be honest, most of my audience is actually overseas anyway, primarily the US and the UK, Canada, Australia. It never really bothered me too much that I didn’t actually sell many books here in New Zealand or that I wasn’t known here in New Zealand. But something’s changed over the last little while where I thought, oh, well actually now’s maybe the time to get a little bit familiar with other authors in your area. Connect with them and connect with local readers and everything too.

So I went along to this workshop, which was really cool. Except it really put my imposter syndrome on full blast. So there must have been maybe 12 of us. And we went around the room and everybody was introducing themselves and there was a wide range of people attending this workshop, people who had never written anything and were just kind of interested and considering the idea of, oh, they’d love to write a book or a story or something, but weren’t sure if they had it in them. So, I mean, there was evidence there of some big imposter syndrome. All the way to people who had published like 50 odd books or so in multiple languages and were there just to learn a little bit more, to add a little bit more to their writing toolbox really. Yeah, so there was a really wide range of people in the room, despite there only being, I don’t know, maybe 12 of us or so, with different experience in the writing and author world. There was traditionally published and independently published and not published at all, people in the room, which was really, really cool.

As we were going around the room, as always happens, I get really nervous about introducing myself. I always hate those things that you attend, where you’ve got to say a few words about yourself. And so, my turn inevitably came around. I was one of the last few, I think, and it was awkward. I know I was a bit rambly. And I introduced myself. I’m Jo Buer. I’m a gothic suspense author. I’ve recently written a Paranormal Cozy. I’m also the host of the Alchemy for Authors podcast, and I’m here to learn blah, blah, blah, blah. And even as I was saying it, I could hear my inner voice critiquing me about how kind of hoity-toity I sounded with like, this is who I am and this is what I do. And I could hear that little voice going, ah, yes, but haven’t you just made yourself out to be a little bit more than you are? Because now people are gonna think you actually know what you’re doing. And what if people look down their nose at you because you’re independently published and not traditionally published?

And it was interesting to me reflecting on that in a dialogue of how I still have hangups about how people are gonna perceive me because I’ve elected to be independently published. And even saying that, I want it known that I’ve elected to be independently published. I actually never once have I sought out being traditionally published, with the exception of I think when I was like nine years old. But as an adult, it actually was never on my radar to be traditionally published for a myriad of reasons that I can talk about in other episodes. But the fact that I noticed that I still have hangups, that people are gonna think less of me as an author, or that I need to in any way justify that this is the path I’ve chosen, not the only path that’s available to me, I think speaks volumes to the fact that I still have a lot of work to do with my confidence around my writing and author persona.

One of the ladies I was sitting across from, when she heard my introduction even said to me, oh wow, so you’re like really into writing? You are really into this? Yeah. Yeah, I am. And then she wanted all my details and my website and my email address and all that, and I gave it to her. And I still felt that prickling inside of like, she obviously thinks I’m somebody more than I am. And I’m sure many people listening to this have felt that too. That sense of like, oh, wait till they find out that, you know, I’m not what they think I am. Because I know when I introduced myself, I probably sounded quite confident in who I was. But it was only that as we were going around the room listening to all the other introductions, I kept rehearsing it in my brain and telling myself, you know, you are going to act like you fully embrace who you are and you are an author and you have all the confidence and yeah, it was a really, really unusual feeling.

And then because it was a workshop, we had to actually do some writing. Which shouldn’t have been a surprise to me, but oh my gosh. I don’t know if anybody else ever feels this way. But when somebody, if you’ve ever attended a workshop, if somebody asks you to, okay, we’re gonna do this quick writing exercise, you need to write, your brain goes blank. Because mine a hundred percent did. And we had a few exercises that we had to do, with some prompts and everything, and I was just sitting there like a really awkward school child with my hand kind of shielding my piece of paper and pretending to move my pen so no one could see that I actually really wasn’t writing anything. Because as soon as I’m asked to quickly write something, not only does my brain go blank, but that imposter syndrome kicked in hard. It kicked in so bad. All of a sudden it was like I totally forgot what words even were. And then of course when it came time to have a few people share their writing out loud, and my inner dialogue the whole time was, oh my gosh, these people are amazing. What am I doing pretending to be a writer? I’ve got maybe a couple of sentences and they’re shit. And, yeah, that was really, really confronting. It took me quite a bit after the workshop to reflect and kind of work out what my problem was. And part of it is the fact that I’m not a person who can write on demand. I’m quite a slow writer, to be honest, and I usually need a lot of input. One of my Clifton Strengths being Input, one of my higher ones there, meaning that I need to fill that creative well and to have a lot of ideas and things first before I can put pen to paper. Another reason why I am not able to write every day, because that thinking time is super, super important to me.

But yeah, so that really put me out of my comfort zone quite a bit and I really felt like I was balancing between two very different personas. I was the author persona, where I was wanting to come across as very confident. I’ve got a podcast, I’ve written these books, I know what I’m doing. Somewhat. Kind of. And then the other part of me inside that was like, what the hell am I doing here? I’m a fraud. Somebody’s gonna see through me and realize that I don’t know what the heck I’m doing. So yeah, that was quite confronting.

And then as the week went by and we were dealing with all the funeral stuff and everything like that, my lovely mother who is one of my top fans for my books, found a lot of opportunities through the week to pull out some of my novels that she owns and share them with people who were coming around to pass on their condolences. And it was on one hand, so lovely that my mom is such a big fan and found ways to weave my books into conversation. It was also a little bit awkward. And I certainly felt a bit embarrassed at times. And then inevitably when people were like, oh, so who published you? And I would be, oh, I’m independently published. Despite however much confidence I tried to say that with, there was always that fear in the back of my mind that they were gonna think less of me. And I did find myself, when my lovely mother decided that when the funeral director came around to the house, that would be a great time to try and sell her on my books, thanks mom, um, I did find myself trying to justify being an independent author when it came up in conversation by saying, oh yeah, but you know, I have my covers professionally designed and I have a professional editor in the US that I get to do my work. And I suddenly found myself giving more information than I really needed to because I was really feeling that sense of I’m a fraud, I’m not a real author.

Which, for anybody who’s listening to this, if you’re an independent author, you are a real author and I want you to believe that because 90% of the time, I believe that too. It’s only of course sometimes that I start to wonder of what other people think about that or that I have to justify why I am an independent author, and it’s not because I’m a shit writer. Really, there’s no need to justify that at all. So I learned a lot about myself and my confidence around my books.

This also leads on to that ugly imposter syndrome there in the background as I get closer to my first local book signing. Which, you know, in my endeavour to make myself known a little bit more in my local community, and to connect with other authors and readers, I signed up to be an author at a local book fair coming up next weekend, the Saturday the 19th here in Hamilton. And I’ll be joining 24 other authors, I think at this point, from around the country or around the local area anyway, who will be speaking for a few minutes about their books and about their author career. And then we’ll be selling and signing our books and all that good stuff. And so I signed up for that knowing that some of the authors most likely to be there are quite prolific and award-winning and have cleaned up in various competitions and are very well known in this country and other countries. And then there’s me.

So there’s definitely that sense of, wow. I’m like playing with the big wigs, but not one of them at all. And yeah, so there’s a lot around my identity of how I fit into all this and why I don’t feel like I fit in yet, maybe. So it’s been an interesting time of reflection on a lot of different things. And just sticking to the imposter syndrome, you know, I don’t think I’ve ever been so nervous about an event before. I have not done a proper book signing event myself. And so, you know, I’ve been wondering how many books should I have on stock? You know, like what should I wear for the day? I want to, you know, look a certain way, but I don’t want to look too dressed up, but I don’t wanna be too dressed down, and I am overthinking everything right now. Like, should I have this? What if I did this? Is this too weird if I wore my witch’s hat to promote Hades’s Haunt? Should I tone it down a bit? What if I’m too much for people? What if I’m too nervous and I stutter and I mess up my little speech that I have to do, or, yeah. I’m sure I’m not the only one that has that constant internal dialogue going on just 24/7. Probably has a lot to do with my ADHD, too. I can’t really shut that off. But yeah, so that is what I’m looking at in the next little while, navigating imposter syndrome.

This definitely hasn’t been an episode where I’ve had lots of answers for you on what you can do to get over imposter syndrome, or how you can navigate those curve ball moments in life where your best laid plans go out the window. This is more really just me sharing what’s been going on with my life in the last little while. And also hopefully to add some comfort to anybody who might’ve found themselves in a similar situation, that you are not alone in feeling these things. You are not alone in wondering if you’re doing this whole author gig or this writing gig, right. I don’t actually know if it ever goes away. I think being able to see it as a normal part of what we do is important and that yeah, lots of people feel this way. You are not alone. And when life does throw you these curve balls too, you are allowed to handle that in whatever way you want to. If you want to write your way through it, by all means do that. There have been several times that I have thought I just wanna sit down with a pen and paper and actually write down everything I experienced from the moment my stepfather passed just as that cathartic kind of getting it outta my system. There’s something about putting words on paper. I haven’t done that yet. Maybe in the next few days.

If you’re a person that you know, life throws something unexpected your way and you actually just need to step away from all things writing. Step away from the social media. Just shut it all down for a while, that’s okay too. You can always come back to it when you are ready to. We all process things a bit differently and I think it’s really important to give ourselves permission to do what is best for us and to not compare ourselves to how other people handle things. Because we are all different. And however you’re handling things is perfect for you, and your writing will always be there. Just like I’ve had to remind myself, social media will always be there. I’ll probably be posting things in the next couple of days again and you know, those algorithms will kick gradually. And in the bigger scheme of things, are they really that important anyway? Probably not. I think a lot of times we make things more important than they actually are.

And in regards to imposter syndrome, you are normal if you have imposter syndrome. I think it’s just being able to take a step back and recognize it for what it is. I’m going back to Becca Symes here, but her QTP, Question the Premise, is it actually real? What we feel about ourselves, what we’re questioning about our ability to do something, do we actually have proof that that’s real? Coincidentally, I think she recently posted on social media something that “Imposters don’t feel imposter syndrome.” So if you’ve been feeling at any point that you are less than, that you’re an imposter, that what the heck are you doing here trying to like sell your books and promote your books and write your books and do that talk on a podcast or do that book signing or whatnot. If you’re feeling any sense of that imposter syndrome, that I think is a strong affirmation that you, my dear, are not an imposter.

So yeah, there we are. So that is episode 60. A little bit different, a little bit of a more personal reflection on my part of the last week. And next episode, episode 61, we should be back into some of our more normal episodes, I guess. I don’t know if normal is the right word. But I’ve got some amazing guests lined up for you from all things craft and mindset and all that good stuff. So I hope you do stick around. As always, I am so thankful for you listening to this podcast, for you sharing it with your friends. I appreciate if you’re able to rate or review. If you want to continue supporting this podcast or supporting me with my writing or anything like that, you can always go to www.buymeacoffee.com/jobuer. Any kind of donations made through that is always really, really appreciated.

Other than that, my lovelies, I hope you are all looking after yourselves, writing in whatever way writing looks for you, whether it is pen on paper, fingertips on keyboards, or just like me at this point where it is a whole lot of reflecting and thinking and mulling over. Then that is all good. Just keep on keeping on and I will see you again next time.

All right, my lovelies. Have a great week. Bye.

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